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My boyfriend and I broke up today. We were talking and he said he wasn't going to make time to see me for another month. I got really pissed off at him and finally told me how he was making me feel.

He thought about it for a while and said that he didn't really think of me as boyfriend material. He didn't explain why in too much depth. I think he want someone big and macho with muscles.

So yeah today was pretty harsh. He said he just thought of me as a friend.

But he also said he felt like a bastard for stringing me along and ignoring me the past three months, and he also said that he wants to continue keeping eachother in our lives.

So, I'm single. I hope we really can still be just friends. He's put me through a lot lately. Whenever we were together he would talk to me like I was a buddy. We never kissed. We barely hugged. He never wanted to do anything further. When we were around his friends it was alright, but he basically treated me like a pal, and never like a boyfriend.

It really sucks that things didn't work out, but at least we didn't yell at eachother or anything. And even though I tried to take some of the blame, he pretty much put everything that went wrong in the relationship on himself.

So, there you go. Alone again, naturally. With no other prospects, really. I guess it's good that I don't have to wonder why I'm being ignored, but I just feel like no one appreciates me. I don't know if that's narcissistic or what. But that's the way I feel. I mean, we would only see eachother once a month. And even then, I had to call him. Set dates for us. Plan everything. And then he would either fall asleep or want to go on some sort of hair-brained adventure with his pals.

I dunno. I just wish I could find my own group of friend in real life.

Anyone else had a similar experience? How did it turn out?

I'm sorry, dude. That's not fun.

I think I speak for everyone here when I say that we all love you. In a very non-sexual way. Most of us, at least.

Yeah, what Tsui said.

But I do admire that you guys both genuinely want to stay friends. I don't think I've ever really had a clean break-up, so it's always taken awhile before my exes and I would start actually being friendly to each other again.

Anyway, don't feel down. There's lots of cock in the sea, or something.

Hey Zeta, that's really really bad.

I feel for you, man. I've had some harsh break ups myself. I've had easy ones. Hell, I've even had funny ones (what was amusing was that she was a nutjob, and not very bright, so she'd pull shit out of thin air [not even like 'normal' chicks do, but really obsurd unlikely stuff], and I could only laugh).

I think Pep's still in the market.

Sorry to hear about this, Zeta.

I know that it's clichéd and everything, but there's someone out there for you. I just hope this doesn't lead you to being even more jaded. Love sucks, but you will find happiness if you keep looking for it.

Best of luck.

Breakups always suck, but usually someone else comes along who's 100 times better than the previous one. Just gotta hang in there.

Hey, Zeta, your thread finally got me back to the forum again... I know you're hurting like hell and there's nothing to really say... but I'm sorry and I feel ya. I've only had one breakup ever, but yeah... they're not too fun. I know this doesn't really help... but we all care, so just spend massive amounts of time online, or something. ;) Hey, we don't really have lives either.

chix0rgirl wrote:Hey, Zeta, your thread finally got me back to the forum again...

What kept you away? Was it Baba's fur fetish? chriscaffee's gun hobby? Del's inner-child scarring retorts? GG!'s much disguised love of all things bouncy big and small? Popcorn's Mom?

It was Popcorn's Mom, wasn't it? Why I oughtta--!




-- follow your example.

I've been there, Zeta. You all know that. I've had countless rejections from the only two people I've ever loved and trusted inplicitly. I'm still with my girl, but I can't go one day without remembering that she left me for my best friend (ex-). We're still together, but we're mostly unhappy. Although nothing sucks worse than being alone in my opinion, at least you can be unhappy with a chance of a new start and a retribution for the shit you put up with, instead of unhappy and afraid to make a decision as to whether you should leave or not. It'll work out man. You'll find yourself an actual boyfriend and not a half-assed road-trippin' "buddy". Best of luck, mate.

I don't have any experience with relationships so I can't really say anything useful except good luck.

It's good to know you guys are still buddies. Sorry things didn't work out for you though.

Whether you have friends in real life or not, the people at GHZ is still here for you. We all loves ya.
~Neo

Lamage..

There isn't much to say, aside from what everybody already said. Zeta, you just gotta try and keep your chin up. There are plenty of other guys out there for ya, and like CP mentioned, the next dude you meet, will most likely be fuckin' awesome. I know it's hard, but try your best to get yourself back to normal. :)

Yeah, as long as you keep a positive outlook, then things will begin to get better.

Psxphile wrote: What kept you away? Was it Baba's fur fetish?

Oh, come on, I've posted worse than those god damn furry pictures, and you know it.
Anyways, my heart goes out to you, Zeta. That sucks. Better to have loved and lost than to die in a plane crash.

Or to have never loved at all would have been a tad more poetic.

Fuck that. I'm an optomist. And while never have loved at all would be poetic, undeniably, an airplane crash is worse than a breakup.

Yeah. One could take that as the joke.

Or try to correct it.

And ditch that 'naturally' stuff, Zeta.

Yeah, Locit's right. If you keep expecting to be alone, you're gonna end up alone, so chin up.

But, Grant, what if it's just a coincidence? Imagine that you're making light of his heartache. How would that feel, huh?

GRANT SI SMRT!

Well, I guess at least Zeta's looking at the bright side of things

Don't rush into a new relationship for the hell of it though
Enjoy your single-ness for a bit

I enjoy the simplicity of being single, although recently I've had the opportunity to change that.