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My girlfriend just left me. I'm sitting here drunk and alone and I need help. Someone please help me. I don't know what to do. I'm sorry to mess you guys about but please, if anyone can help me, please do, because i don't wan t to be alone right now. please.

Keep drinking.

Dude... You're in England. What're we supposed to do?

But yeah... It'll be okay. Go watch a movie (something with a lot of shooting), or play a game, or something.

Or keep drinking.

First, hide all sedatives. You're drunk, so you shouldn't remember where they are anyways.
Now, I suggest listening to some James Taylor and The Who, and telling us your problem.
Or, an alternative solution is involves a razor...

It's pretty dangerous to ask for serious advice from this crew.

Umm....if you've been depressed for a long time because of her, may I suggest you stop moping and move on with life or if you can't, try doing something else to keep your mind of her.
~Neo

Obviously, you've never loved and lost, Neo Yi. It's not that easy to just "stop moping and move on", okay?

There isn't a worse feeling in the world, I'm afraid. My first real girlfriend and I broke up after a year together 'cause she was seeing some other dude behind my back. This was about a year or so ago and I was in a pretty shitty mood constantly for a good five months afterwards.

It actually ended up being the best thing that could've happened, because it led me to meet my current gal, who I couldn't be happier with.

So, yeah, it sucks pretty bad right now, but it'll get better. The more you keep busy and don't dwell on it, the saner you'll be.

Good luck.

Neo Yi wrote:Umm....if you've been depressed for a long time because of her

j-man wrote:My girlfriend just left me

Posted: Today at 4:38 pm

Read for comprehension, Neo.

J-man: It hurts. A lot. I know, believe me. But it will pass. Don't drink by yourself, okay? You've gotta have buds nearby. At least stay online and talk to people, okay? It's all right to get drunk, just don't do anything stupid.

Obviously, you've never loved and lost, Neo Yi. It's not that easy to just "stop moping and move on", okay?

Unfortunately, I never have. I apologize wholeheartly if I sounded terrible and offended J-Man. I wasn't even thinking of hurting him any further then he is. I know I never felt this way, but I know it IS a great lost. Also, until Dephine informed (I miss out on small details one too many times), I wasn't aware this was VERY recent. I even said "if you've been depressed a long time", so I wasn't aware at that point then, not to mention I added an "or" and gave another piece of advice.

Still, regardless, I still feel guilty for my actions and I sincerely give my apologies to J-man and anyone close to him. I seriously do. I meant no offense and I don't want anyone to misunderstand me for some heartless douchbag. I'm a bitch, yes, but I don't want to hurt anyone's feeling, so once again, I am truly sorry.
~Neo

Well, hopefully you have some family and friends in real life. Try getting some help from them. Spending time with OTHER people you love, even platonically, can really help.

Failing that, I suggest you spend some time with a pet. Or if you lack one, you might want to consider getting one. Without family/friends/girlfriend a pet can go a long way to making you feel less lonely. Trust me, I know. It's nice to have SOMETHING to come home to. And even if you're too drunk to do it tonight, you might want to look into it in the near future, considering that this bout of depression is likely to last more than a week.

If all else fails, find some online buds to talk to on an IM or something.

I hope you feel better soon, man, nothing's worse than a broken heart. If you weren't in England, I might've considered giving you a ring.

But don't start drinking so much that you get alcohol poisoning, and stay away from other medication/mood alterers.

Or you could, y'know, keep drinking.

Hush, you. British alcoholic beverages taste even worse than American ones. I don't want someone I like put through that horrible experience.

British alcoholic beverages taste even worse than American ones.

But once you're drunk, you don't really care anymore.

I didn't know you drink.

I didn't know he had an ex he's needed to drink over.

If he wasn't English, now would be a perfect time to tie-in a country western song.

I don't drink, usually. But on the rare occasions that I do, such as when Del's mom raised her rates and I needed a six pack to build up the courage to drop the extra 10 cents, once I'm past the third one it gets alot easier.

...Love sucks anyway you look at it. Either they leave you, or they die. So discard all those bad feelings and become an involuntarily celibate curmudgeon like me!

But seriously, once you know you can make a girl love you at least once, you know that it can happen again. Weather the storm of your tattered emotions, it'll be allright in the end. Oh, and ditto everyone else: don't expire from overalcoholising. if you die on my watch, I'll be really annoyed.

I'm really sorry to hear that, J-man. I'm actually still kinda getting over a relation ship that lasted four years. I was <i>really</i> depressed for the first day or two, but that was only because we had broken up once before, and it was around the time of the whole angry_beaver/Booby thread incident (angry_beaver was a friend of my ex who was just here to give me trouble). Zeta is right, online friends really do help, but still, try talking to some of your good friends in real life. The first time I had broken up was deep though, she had actually been cheating on me for six months. (The only reason I got back together with her was because she was going through some rough times and wasn't exactly thinking straight.) But I was pretty lonely and depressed while we were apart. Laughter is always good medicine, it's not the cure, but it'll help you so that you're not <i>always</i> upset. You could try reading a book as well, that may help you to get your mind off things. Time heals all wounds, I hope your recovery goes over smoothly.

Btw, in Neo's defense, no one should really have taken offense to her comment. It was kinda obvious that she had missed something, which is just a simple mistake that just about anyone could make.
To angry_beaver or Sazz: If you are reading this, I kindly ask for you to not start trouble in this thread. If you do, well, just shows how inconsiderate you are.

If i remember rightly, love is addictive with similar withdrawal symtoms to crack. Hence why some people get really depressed over the stuff.

I would recomend you just forget about it. Make sure there are no references of her to remind you. Hell, stop reading this topic even.

You'll be fine.

Btw, in Neo's defense, no one should really have taken offense to her comment. It was kinda obvious that she had missed something, which is just a simple mistake that just about anyone could make.

Thanks for the kind words, Spazz, it made my day, but I still give my apologize because I feel guitly for what I said, mistake or not.
~Neo

Well, you should feel guilty. Banned.

Uh...hey guys. I'm a tad more sober today, so firstly I'll apologise for what was basically a drunken tearful rant at my sudden inner turmoil broadcast on a public forum. However, although my hopes weren't high when I remembered that I had posted here last night, you guys have really said some wonderful stuff. All your support is awesome. And don't worry Neo, allay your guilty feelings as I was not offended. :)

I actually followed your advice, GG!. According to my mum and my buddy Danny's mum, I called him in tears, skated to his house while falling over a lot (which I gathered from the bruises), continued drinking a large amount of alcohol, cried some more, fell asleep on his living room floor, got carried to his car, and driven home by his mum. I woke up at 5 this morning still in my clothes, covered in mud and surrounded by empty beer bottles and tissues. The tissues were for the tears, by the by. I hope so anyway. I don't feel any better. I actually feel incredibly apathetic, with a nice touch of nausea and self loathing, which isn't really surprising I guess.

Anyway.

The point is, sorry for heaping my problems on you...but you guys have been sublime, so thank you for that. Although you may just be words on a screen (or thankfully pictures too now, Del...rawr!) you've shown me more support and caring than a lot of people I unfortunately know in real life.

Thanks, guys.

-- Josh